h. Resources and Distinctions
From a workshop for Wollongong Women’s Housing
What is Multiple Personality Disorder?
- * Schizophrenic
* Schizoid
* Multiple Personality
* Conscious/Unconscious
* Subpersonality
Shared Personality
- * Twins
* Parent/Child
* Lovers
How is it created?
- * Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome
* Fear Guilt Pain Anxiety
* Child Abuse
How they are different
- * Power
* Approval/love
* Pleasure
* Outcomes
* Loyalty
How to communicate
- * Getting Rapport
* Different styles for different personalities
Healing the Individual Personalities
- * Trauma Cures
Integrating the Individual Personalities
- * When
* How
* Why
Protecting the Therapist
- * How others do it – successfully
* Tailoring Protection to Yourself
* Daily Routines
Rapport linguistic patterns
- hypnotic language
sensory systems
modal operators
Satir category
age
valuesnon-verbal
eyes
posture
gesture
breathing
tone/tempo
mirroring/matching
pacing/leading
Trauma management and cure
- stepping out emotionally
changing emotional history
making the present more emotionally real than the past
phobia cure
abuse cure
growing-up younger selves
changing critical voices
shame and guilt
dealing with criticism
resolving grief
beyond dependency
establishing a strong self
creating a self
taking it across time
Integration
- when not to / why
setting outcomes
intent reframes
functionality reframes
skills reframes
integrating opposites
establishing authority
multi-person rapport
hypnotic language
pattern interrupts
Some Issues and Concerns
* Should integration be the aim?
* How can I reduce my pain to a manageable level?
* Did it really happen?
* Who is the boss?
* When to fire the therapist
* Who am I?
* Why did it happen to me?
* Does it have to be so hard?
* Should I tell others about it?
* Drugs
* Hospitalisation
* How do I control my thoughts?
* How can I disempower the others who are against me?
* How do I know what’s real?
* When will I be safe?
* What is my future?
* Will I become boring?
Our behaviours and thoughts are what usually keep us occupied and in changing our activities and thinking we often just need to learn what to do and then we can do it.
Someone who can’t ski may need to watch a slow-motion video of skiers to find what they do that works and then repeat those actions.
Similarly someone who can’t spell might need to learn just how good spellers do their skill with special reference to the internal psychological skills they use.
But whether not we do a skill often depends on our ability to create the emotional state appropriate to the behaviour and if we don’t know how to do this then we can be ‘stuck’ at the emotional level.
So someone who feels unsure of him- or her-self might need to learn just how one feels confident and once having learnt the internal mechanics can then repeat the skill as needed.
This state of confidence might be necessary in order to do behaviours and thinking competently. Whether it’s skiing or spelling, skills are best done confidently.
And even if we can produce the appropriate state when needed, if we believe we can’t then we won’t. Or we just may not value the skill sufficiently to spend enough time and effort on it to become competent.
And if those three levels line-up we may still not do the skill if it clashes with out sense of ourself.
“I’m just not that kind of person” is what some people say
And none of this is relevant if the person actually cannot do the skill.
It is unlikely a transsexual will be able to get pregnant regardless of the psychological skills mastered.
All these levels of personal reality are important when exploring personal development.
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